Love is NOT Rude...
Did you catch that? Man oh man is this my pet peeve. Being rude to your children or your spouse shows a huge lack of respect, and I don't know anyone who is rude to their family and gets respect back in return. Day 5 in The Love Dare books says this, "Rudeness is unnecessarily saying or doing things that are unpleasant for another person to be around. To be rude is to act unbecoming, embarrassing, or irritating. In marriage, this could be a foul mouth, poor table manners, or a habit of making sarcastic quips. However you look at it, NO ONE enjoys being around a rude person."
Nothing breaks my heart and makes me angrier than hearing a spouse "jokingly" rip on their spouse. It isn't funny... Doing it to your children is even worse! It is all those little "digs" that are said in a "joking" manner. Learn what is funny, because this is not...especially when it is a sensitive area for them. Please DO NOT talk negatively about your spouse or children to your friends or co-workers. You can single handily tear apart your family by doing this. Women who bash their husbands publicly must not have a clue what they are doing to their marriage or they wouldn't do that. Parents who belittle or bash their children publicly or even at home must not have a clue as to the damage they are doing to their son or daughter. They definitely are not going to capture their heart doing that, and it DOES NOT build relationship. It really breaks my heart to see this and it seems like it happens more frequently.
People who practice self control and have good manners are a pleasure to be around. People who are rude and constantly complaining about their spouse and/or their children are a complete drag. In my opinion the only people that want to hear and see that, are people who are jealous and want to see you fail. They seem to be miserable people who have already lost everything, and we all know that misery LOVES company.
It might be that you are a very considerate person around others, but completely different behind closed doors. A VERY common occurrence, sadly... That is hypocritical and something that will cause your children to rebel. They will consider you to be not "real", but "fake". It is so important to treat your children AND your spouse the way you would want to be treated. The way that they SEE you treating other people too!
Teens... show your parents respect and put away the rude behavior and you will get respect back in return. Not just one time, but over and over - every time! Be a blessing... :o)
Wives - it is so important for you to speak highly of your husband. Singing his praises!!! Nothing will boost his confidence in himself faster. He will begin to receive promotions and challenge himself to the next level. If you exhibit confidence in him, then he will be confident in all areas of his life.
Parents - I have heard that for every correction that you give your child you should have six positive things to say to them (praises). If you praise them publicly it is like six times more meaningful!!! I am sure the same is for your spouse. If you feel like you are constantly having to correct your children, then give this a try! I think you will LOVE the results. Your child will go above and beyond to hear that praise. :o)
Once again... don't wait for your spouse, parent or child to be the first one. You go for it!!! If you are thinking that everyone else has the problem and you don't... then you definitely need to go first! Lead the way...
Today's dare is to ask your spouse, child, parent to tell you three things that cause him or her to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. You cannot attack them in return or even try to justify your behavior. This is their perspective... listen... :o)
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